Going to be first Mom is one of the wonderful experience for us. But at the same time, there happens a loads of changes in our life. It seems that all the worries, all the tough situations only we are facing and this make us to step in the world of stress, anxiety.
When things goes wrong, we get angry on ourselves and loose the control. And do you know by this we only harm ourselves and the enjoyment of our new life and the purest bond of this world.
Let’s soothen those hurdles now
First and foremost, the sleep time
An adequate amount of sleep is really important for everyone of us and that for a mom is the most important part.
But it’s becoming difficult for a good sleep for a mom. This happens as we often see that babies take nap at daytime and they remain awake at night. Why this????? It’s because when the baby is in stomach, he or she stays on the fluid and when mamma wakes up, she moves around and this fluid moves slowly due to the motion….You know which act as a swing for the baby and help him or her to have a sleep and at night the water stays stagnant as mamma sleeps at that moment…..So you understand why baby remain awake at night after they comes out….
Also, a mother needs to feed baby after a specific interval of time. So difficult to sleep right.
Also you have the other works too…. O no!!!!
Ok …Now chill ….There is a way too.
For the first few days you won’t be able to do much about this. But once your baby is about 2 weeks old, you can start teaching him/her to distinguish night from day.
When he/she’s alert and awake during the day, interact and play with him/her as much as you can, keep the house and his/her room light and bright, and don’t worry about minimizing regular daytime noises like the phone, music, or dishwasher. If he/she tends to sleep through feedings, wake him/her up.
At night, don’t play with him/her when he/she wakes up. Keep the lights and noise level low, and don’t spend too much time talking to him/her. Before long he/she should begin to figure out that nighttime is for sleeping.
Also, mom you need to adjust your sleep trickily…You know what, better take a nap when ever you get time. This will calm your nerves, boost up your energy and your willpower to do something, improves your alertness and lots more.
Researchers have found that while longer naps may cause grogginess, they also get in some good REM sleep which is where complex learning and perceptual skills are benefitted. In one experiment, sleep scientist Sara Mednick and her team directly compared caffeine intake (200mg) with napping (60–90 minutes) and placebo on three distinct memory processes: declarative verbal memory, procedural motor skills, and perceptual learning. Overall, the nap improved performance across all three different learning areas.
So try the practice of having small nap, this helps you in all way and for you new mommy… it’s seems to be really important.
And believe me, it’s better than caffeine.
Society and New mom
Ooo our society has lots to tell on what to do and what not! They have to tell a lots and lots and lots. And so confusing, when some of them says this is right at the same time they says no this is not. They have a huge list for our betterment. And for the new mom, there are lots of lots. Sometimes , it gives tantrums. Sometimes we fear to face this society. It make us feel to run away from our responsibility.
You will hear them saying, never feed in front of everyone, don’t bottle feed, don’t care of you – need to care only for the child.
This is so important and so sad that society still doesn’t get how important mental health is for mothers (and their babies and people in general). An estimated 11-20% of new moms exhibit symptoms of postpartum depression, and that’s not including moms who miscarry or experience infant loss via prematurity, still birth or other complications. New motherhood (and even pregnancy) often come with a side of anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts, stress, and other issues and, still, society doesn’t provide enough resources (or simple understanding) to help the moms who are experiencing such symptoms.
Working moms experience a lot of guilt that stems from a patriarchal society that claims moms should stay home with the babies, yet makes it seem like stay-at-home moms are such a burden. Stay-at-home moms hear all sorts of ridiculous things about their working status as well, and also deal with a large amount of guilt as they don’t “provide income” for the family. It’s all nonsense.
Have kids? Better invest in some mom jeans! No, but seriously, it’s like once a person becomes a mother, they’re supposed to stop thinking about sex or dating or flirting or anything even remotely related to their sexuality.
Single moms catch a lot of extra flack. They’re told they’re irresponsible for having a baby out of wedlock (seriously?) or for not working hard to make their marriage work (what?) or raising their child in an “unhealthy environment” (you’re kidding, right?).
And there are lots and lots and lots.
No one should criticize a mother’s choice when it comes to working and parenting simultaneously. I mean, no one seems to do the same with fathers, so…
Just because a woman has decided to become a mother, doesn’t mean she is now required to listen to someone discuss parenting strategies or choices or anything.
What about the fact with single mom…. a number of single mothers in the U.S. has risen in the last 50 years, because women are demanding better for themselves and their children. Hell. Freakin’. Yes.
Yes, just ignore them, leave behind the leg pulls.
Trust me whatever you do, people will find a loophole in it.
So why bother?!!! Take a good care of yourself, keep yourself fit and steady. Remember, when you are healthy from all aspects, only then you will be able to raise your baby properly.
No matter what others say, they are not going to take care of your baby,.. It’s you who have to.
If you need do meditation, calm yourself down and focus on your goal and trust me you will surely win.
You are the best, listen your heart and only to doctor.
Last but not the least, the Breastfeeding
The taboo part to discuss but hey….., it is the toughest part. Firstly, a mom had to do a lot of hardwork in that. Don’t even think that it’s an easy work and can be done correctly at one go…no no no….A BIG NO THEN. After a lots of trial, a mother can do it correctly. Also there is a great pressure from doctor, nurses and neighbors to do it correctly. It’s not that easy part as we see in photograph or movies. In breastfeeding, a mother loose a lots of calories. She bears the pain and also she has the risk of infection.
Lots of tantrums huh!!! But no tension, let’s find some benefits of this part….
Breast milk provides the ideal nutrition for infants. It has a nearly perfect mix of vitamins, protein, and fat — everything your baby needs to grow. And it’s all provided in a form more easily digested than infant formula. Breast milk contains antibodies that help your baby fight off viruses and bacteria. Breastfeeding lowers your baby’s risk of having asthma or allergies. Plus, babies who are breastfed exclusively for the first 6 months, without any formula, have fewer ear infections, respiratory illnesses, and bouts of diarrhea. They also have fewer hospitalizations and trips to the doctor.
Only baby!!!! No it benefits the mother too…
Breastfeeding burns extra calories, so it can help you lose pregnancy weight faster. It releases the hormone oxytocin, which helps your uterus return to its pre-pregnancy size and may reduce uterine bleeding after birth. Breastfeeding also lowers your risk of breast and ovarian cancer. It may lower your risk of osteoporosis, too.
Now we all know, breastfeeding is a very important part in a baby’s growth and mamma has to breast feed them at every 2 hours (as per recommended), we also know that we all breastfeeded from our mother and at the same time our mother to had done the other works of our daily life but when we see mother breastfeed her child we give a nasty side view.
But don’t bother about this looks. People do keep giving this kinda look in either way most of the times. Remember always, breastfeeding is good not only for the baby but for you too. And overall you are doing a great job.
While feeding baby in public you can use a cover cloth, if you feel uneasy.
Mother’s and parent’s rooms are a feature in most shopping centres and public places, make a good use of them. Wear purpose designed breastfeeding tops, these tops are good looking and trendy too, helps to boost up your confidence.
Breastfeeding small babies can absorb hours and hours of every day. Make sure you are comfortable and relaxed, even if you are out. You may want to take a small, supportive pillow with you.
When you travel with a familiar face, it gives you confidence to face any situation….If possible can use this useful one.
The closeness and intimacy of breastfeeding can cause feelings of awkwardness, but this has nothing to do with the individual mother and her baby, more about the observer’s attitudes. You will find that if you are relaxed they will soon learn to be too.
Many people tend to see a baby being breastfed as something precious. Even though you may feel people are looking at you, don’t assume they are being critical. Older women particularly can view breastfeeding as a pleasant reminder of their own experiences. Similarly, small children who have never witnessed a mother breastfeeding her baby can be fascinated. Don’t be surprised if you feel you are being stared at. A smile and comment like “My baby’s having a drink of milk” will soon fill in the gaps.